Wives submitting to husbands (video reply)

So I was watching a video online about Kirk Cameron saying wives should be submissive to their husbands, and another one about the full house star Candace Cameron Bure and how she said she is submissive to her husband. And the The Young Turks on YouTube completely dissected this Biblical idea of women being submissive to their husbands. I love watching this show because they always bring up good ideas, and questions. But on this video I had to leave my comment because I believe they are seeing submission as the negative submission, like a slave to a master or a maid to a boss. But not at all, this submission that the bible refers to is mutual respect of ideas and more. I wrote out a comment and if you read through it all please let me know what you think … THANK YOU ūüôā

First , Here are the videos if you want to see them..

I know it’s a lot.. please read.. It’s not like that at all . wives submit to husbands THE WAY YOU SUBMIT TO THE LORD and husbands LOVE YOUR WIVES respect your wives JUST AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH.. and how did christ love the church? He died for us so that we may live, and he lives for us so that we can be free of sin and death and live our destiny in him, in goodness and love.. it is not one-sided “yes sir” we don’t submit to god saying yes sir.. we talk to god and tell him the desires in our heart and he listens and makes a way for us, and we listen to his guidance because he knows what is right for us, because he knows our HEARTS, AND OUR SPIRIT AND WHO WE REALLY ARE, his plans are always to prosper and not to harm us, and to make us victorious in him because he loves us and desires us to be happy in our full potential as children of GOD the creator of heaven and earth, and everything you know.. This passage is an addition to marriages, how you’re supposed to treat a marriage WHEN YOU ALREADY HAVE THE CHARACTERISTICS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT IN YOU: LOVE, PEACE, GOODNESS, KINDNESS, FAITHFULNESS, HOLYNESS, SELF CONTROL, JOY, GENTLENESS ETC. (Gal 5:22)

 

It’s a command to both husband and wives to respect each other, listen to each other, submit to eachother, work together when making decisions, and a wife tells her husband how she feels, and what she wants .. and the husband is supposed to respect her, love her the way Christ loves us, and support her.. submission is showing respect to eachother NOT THE WORDLY SUBMISSION WHICH HAS A STIGMA ATTACHED TO IT, ALMOST LIKE A SLAVE/ MAID/ OBEDIENCE IN EVERYTHING.. NOT THAT AT ALL.. it is assumed that a woman waited for God’s guidance in finding her husband and so his heart will be for her and her heart will be for him, but since we are sinful people we get selfish and want whatever we want and that’s how some marriages end, and god is just laying out some guidelines to make every GOD CENTERED marriage work. And though it does not say MEN be submissive to your wife, it does give other commands which in order to be fulfilled a husband has to also submit to what his wife desires, so they submit to eachother, love eachother equally because they are one, and treat eachother the way they would treat themselves.

And yes Husbands have the final final say in decisions that they can’t come into agreement with, just because someone has to have the final say of what they’re going to do, and the husband is the head of the household. And the command is for wives to be submissive .. ,but he doesn’t just decide no or yes… as a christ centered marriage and as head of household he goes and talks to god/ prays and God will guide them both..And the husband is commanded to love her so much that he will do what is best for her, no matter what. and the only decision he’ll say no to ,, is if he sees a better way or if it will hurt his other half in some way.

BIBLE VERSES:

Ephesians 5: 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands AS YOU DO TO THE LORD. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church‚ÄĒ 30 for we are members of his body. 31 ‚ÄúFor this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.‚ÄĚ[b] 32 This is a profound mystery‚ÄĒbut I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Hillsong NYC Connect group experience

If you haven’t¬†heard of Hillsong¬†nyc¬†church, (Welcome home!), and you live in NYC please look them up, their Sunday services are held on 14st.¬†¬†I really encourage¬†you to go but If you have than¬†I¬†encourage you even more to join a connect group. ‚̧
Join a group where you feel comfortable to speak up, to talk about God, to pray freely, and where you feel you can relate to others.

The connect groups aren’t just bible study they’re a chance to connect, of course, but also to¬†encouraged you in your faith. You can gain new relationships and friendships and¬†I love the one¬†I go to because it feels like a sisterhood, and a place that¬†I can make some really great girl friends. (even though its in another borough, an hour away) :/.

Connect group meeting tonight was awesome. (Our group in Astoria, Queens is all woman, so I met a lot of great woman). And unfortunately my memory eludes me on some of their names.
I’m so thankful that I can truly say that they’re a great set of woman that¬†encourage and motivate me to just be an amazing woman of God. I love the feeling that¬†I get when I’m around them. I feel like¬†I belong there and like Jesus is going to use them to help me brake¬†old habits.¬†While helping me¬†to add good new habits, unfailing faith and so many other things. ¬†I wish you guys could¬†feel¬†how much¬†love¬†I feel when I enter their home,¬†its just amazing.

This was my second time attending a connect group, I met Kendall in a Hillsong¬†service were they gave us “4 minutes of fellowship” and we connected and she told me about the new connect group that she and her roommate were having. I really liked her right away.¬†I had been¬†trying to go to one by¬†where I live¬†for a long time but¬†I didn’t know anyone yet¬†so¬†I didn’t want to go on my own.

But since¬†I met Kendall,¬†I took a chance and went, and I’m grateful¬†I did because¬†I got a chance to meet some wonderful woman of GOD! ūüôā I’m excited to see how God moves within us, and how we will be helping each other become strong leaders in our communities embodying God’s grace, love, and strength.

James 1:2-4

Faith and Endurance

2 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. РJames 1:2-4 (NLT)

2 Peter 1:20-21

A lot of people say that they don’t believe in the Bible because it was written by men. In 2 Peter it explains how it was done. It wasn’t made from the men’s own understanding, they were filled with the holy spirit of God- meaning God was speaking to them and telling them what to write. <– when I say that to my friends they usually say, ” Isn’t ¬†God powerful enough to write it himself?” Yes, he is, ¬†but why not let a human write to the human, they were like us, they understood our weaknesses and our strengths.

Even if God wrote it himself, would people believe that he wrote it?  He would still give no proof, it would just say God wrote it.

Instead he knew many people were going to be confused about the Bible so he included verses to quench our curiosity.

Paul wrote that the bible is not made from myths, the prophets were eye witnesses to God’s Majesty.

20 Above all, you must realize that no prophecy in Scripture ever came from the prophet’s own understanding, 21 or from human initiative. No, those prophets were moved by the Holy Spirit, and they spoke from God. Р2 Peter 1:20-21

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Psalm 91:1-2

  1 He that dwells in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

2¬†I will say of the¬†Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.¬† –¬†Psalms 91:1-2

Repeating this verse every day and night makes me feel protected.

A few years ago I had trouble sleeping in the dark ; no I was not a little kid but teenagers could have fears also. I wasn’t afraid of the darkness but I was afraid of all the things my imagination came up with. I’d see shadows on the walls and feel like someone was watching me, I ¬†wouldn’t be able to sleep next to anyone because if I saw their face in the dark It would freak me out. I’d see things that weren’t there, like someone moving or the person staring at me or smiling at me. No I’m not¬†hallucinating, at least I don’t think so, I just have a really big imagination. I love my imagination because it make me creative, I could even make my own movie in my head; hear it, see it and smell it.

Until I started saying this prayer, nothing helped get passed the fears.

I notice that when I forget to say it I have nightmares and they’re vivid. They’re also weird, when I fell asleep¬†i don’t notice so my mind is awake and I’m thinking but I’m¬†also¬†dreaming. I can’t move because I’m asleep but I start thinking ” hopefully someone will walk in my room so that I can wake up”. I see people walking around me in the dream and ¬†it jumps to different settings and all this time my mind is¬†acknowledging¬†everything that’s going on, but I can’t wake myself up. Strange, I know.

I chose this verse today because last night I had a moment again where I felt like I wasn’t alone in my room and it made me jump and I said the verse so quick that I don’t even know if I said it right. And I just wanted to let people know that God is always looking out for us but as much as I¬†believe¬†in God I believe in the other side. They’re always around trying to make us fall and when I say this verse they have no choice but to go away because I just gave God all my trust and I believe with all my heart he protects me.

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Day 4 – Jeremiah 33:3

Have you ever asked God for help and it seemed like nothing happened?

God says , ” Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” – Jeremiah 33:13

No you’re not being foolish talking to yourself, God hears and sees everything and you’re not being weak asking for help, stronger is the person who is brave enough to ask for help. When you’re in need of some one to talk to, God is always there just call out to him but remember God does not work on your time, he works on his time, and that means he will intervene just in time. And if you’ve asked him for help before and it didn’t seem like he was there, I assure you he was but God knows our hearts and what we are capable of handling, why not let us use the opportunity to learn how brave we can be or resistant. He is always there to help us because he loves us but he is not going to intrude unless we ask him to and even then he can work with you in the most subtle way, that you would never notice if it was God or just luck. – I don’t believe in luck.
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