Wives submitting to husbands (video reply)

So I was watching a video online about Kirk Cameron saying wives should be submissive to their husbands, and another one about the full house star Candace Cameron Bure and how she said she is submissive to her husband. And the The Young Turks on YouTube completely dissected this Biblical idea of women being submissive to their husbands. I love watching this show because they always bring up good ideas, and questions. But on this video I had to leave my comment because I believe they are seeing submission as the negative submission, like a slave to a master or a maid to a boss. But not at all, this submission that the bible refers to is mutual respect of ideas and more. I wrote out a comment and if you read through it all please let me know what you think … THANK YOU ūüôā

First , Here are the videos if you want to see them..

I know it’s a lot.. please read.. It’s not like that at all . wives submit to husbands THE WAY YOU SUBMIT TO THE LORD and husbands LOVE YOUR WIVES respect your wives JUST AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH.. and how did christ love the church? He died for us so that we may live, and he lives for us so that we can be free of sin and death and live our destiny in him, in goodness and love.. it is not one-sided “yes sir” we don’t submit to god saying yes sir.. we talk to god and tell him the desires in our heart and he listens and makes a way for us, and we listen to his guidance because he knows what is right for us, because he knows our HEARTS, AND OUR SPIRIT AND WHO WE REALLY ARE, his plans are always to prosper and not to harm us, and to make us victorious in him because he loves us and desires us to be happy in our full potential as children of GOD the creator of heaven and earth, and everything you know.. This passage is an addition to marriages, how you’re supposed to treat a marriage WHEN YOU ALREADY HAVE THE CHARACTERISTICS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT IN YOU: LOVE, PEACE, GOODNESS, KINDNESS, FAITHFULNESS, HOLYNESS, SELF CONTROL, JOY, GENTLENESS ETC. (Gal 5:22)

 

It’s a command to both husband and wives to respect each other, listen to each other, submit to eachother, work together when making decisions, and a wife tells her husband how she feels, and what she wants .. and the husband is supposed to respect her, love her the way Christ loves us, and support her.. submission is showing respect to eachother NOT THE WORDLY SUBMISSION WHICH HAS A STIGMA ATTACHED TO IT, ALMOST LIKE A SLAVE/ MAID/ OBEDIENCE IN EVERYTHING.. NOT THAT AT ALL.. it is assumed that a woman waited for God’s guidance in finding her husband and so his heart will be for her and her heart will be for him, but since we are sinful people we get selfish and want whatever we want and that’s how some marriages end, and god is just laying out some guidelines to make every GOD CENTERED marriage work. And though it does not say MEN be submissive to your wife, it does give other commands which in order to be fulfilled a husband has to also submit to what his wife desires, so they submit to eachother, love eachother equally because they are one, and treat eachother the way they would treat themselves.

And yes Husbands have the final final say in decisions that they can’t come into agreement with, just because someone has to have the final say of what they’re going to do, and the husband is the head of the household. And the command is for wives to be submissive .. ,but he doesn’t just decide no or yes… as a christ centered marriage and as head of household he goes and talks to god/ prays and God will guide them both..And the husband is commanded to love her so much that he will do what is best for her, no matter what. and the only decision he’ll say no to ,, is if he sees a better way or if it will hurt his other half in some way.

BIBLE VERSES:

Ephesians 5: 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands AS YOU DO TO THE LORD. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church‚ÄĒ 30 for we are members of his body. 31 ‚ÄúFor this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.‚ÄĚ[b] 32 This is a profound mystery‚ÄĒbut I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

I know why…

Why am I here?

Why do i matter?

Who says anything matters..

Im going through a time where I honestly feel like I don’t want to be here. I say that to myself often. I would never commit suicide or anything. I’m not unhappy, I just don’t understand sometimes.

I try to push it away by saying, “God has a reason for everything, he has a plan, he is taking care of us.” All which I believe with all my heart, I just do not know his plan yet and sometimes I forget those reasons.

If it were up to me I would choose to not be on this earth, like never created.

Truthfully I am afraid of the future.

I hate the way this world is, the way some people are, cold hearted and really only care about themselves and what they want. And I only imagine things getting worst. What I see matters to this world is¬†basically¬†status and money. In order to live an okay life you need money, but you’ll have to deal with the stress that comes with it, like spending all our waking hours working.

One way or another you have to work.

School is work, networking is work, building a resume is work, keeping a routine is work. Work causes stress when you add pressure. And most people have the pressure of NEEDING to work to live a comfortable life, not choosing to work.

I believe this is what stresses me out. I’m only 21, I’m not set to choose if I want to work or not. The government says I have to work, ¬†I have to pay bills, and if I want to have a place to live, eat, or wear something decent, I have to work, Otherwise we have the option to be homeless- tough choice.

Was I really born to wake up everyday to go to school, to work, and to sleep and do it again over and over and in between to fill time, find some meaningless entertainment, like a movie that I would’t even remember in a month.. I highly doubt it.

Everyone wants to be safe, happy, loved, peaceful, joyful, energetic and basically alive with no worries.

As I put things into perspective, I notice that I am really pressured. Pressured to keep up with time, to behave a certain way, to conform to societies ways, to have an education if I ever want to make it anywhere (even to help people you need a piece of paper with stamps and a signature), I have to work because I need to pay for that education, — Stress. I cant get a great job until I get an education, and I cant get a good education until I get a great job.

I can’t buy a house until I get a great job and great credit, and Its hard to get a great job if I dont have a great education. And great credit comes when you are willing to spend and then pay them back with interest.

This system sucks, it works like a trap, the government is cruel, and the police force isn’t all serving and protecting the way they are suppossed to.

I hear stories about people getting killed all the time, stories of people trusting the police and becoming a victim instead.

I believe we have a false sense of freedom. When you try to be dfferent and speak up, you can get killed, shut down, shoved into a prison, who knows…  disorder is disliked.

I say why was I born, and why am I still here..

I can really only answer that in one way.

Jesus.

He is the way, the truth and the life.

you ever heard “The truth will set you free”? Well Jesus is the truth.

The only thing that can truly set me free is Jesus.

So he gives me hope and stregnth, and love, and joy, and peace all over again even when this world is terrible, the bright light in him restores hope to people everyday.

I know why I am here; I matter because God created me the way I am, with a purpose and a plan.

  • Jeremiah 1:5, NIV¬†Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.
  • Revelation 4:11, NKJV¬†You are worthy, O Lord, To receive glory and honor and power; For You created all things, And by Your will they exist and were created.
  • Matthew 37-39, ESV¬†And he said to him, ‚ÄúYou shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
  • Matthew 5:16, NIV¬†Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
  • Ecclesiastes 12:13, ESV¬†The end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.Micah 6:8, ESV¬†He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?
  • Psalm 86:12, ESV¬†I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart, and I will glorify your name forever.
  • Jeremiah 29:11, NIV¬†For I know the plans I have for you,‚ÄĚ declares the LORD, ‚Äúplans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.tells me so..¬†

Hillsong service- I’m searching for a real love

Hillsong NYC
Sunday 9pm service
June 9, 2013

“I’m searching for a real love”

(My notes on Pastor Karl Lentz preaching) Enjoy!

Some words you have to be careful when you say them because people can take it the wrong way.
( When you’re married be careful what you say)

One word that has been misused is LOVE !

It has been changed around in our community and now people are trying to find the wrong things and love in all the wrong places.

The search could be over if they’d figure out that LOVE is a PERSON, Jesus Christ.
” I found true love when I found the creator of the universe who accepted me the way I was and loved me too much to leave me like that.”

REAL LOVE REVELATION :
You cannot¬†GIVE the love of God (the reason you’re on this earth), and
you cannot SHOW the love of God (the reason you’re in NY)
if you have not experienced his love than you can’t show it.

John 20:1  (MSG)

20¬†1-2¬†Early in the morning on the first day of the week, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene came to the tomb and saw that the stone was moved away from the entrance. She ran at once to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one Jesus loved, breathlessly panting, ‚ÄúThey took the Master from the tomb. We don‚Äôt know where they‚Äôve put him.‚ÄĚ

” The one that Jesus loved.”¬†¬†(I cannot be moved)
The writer of John wrote that in 3rd person.
Confidence and security in God’s love for him, something that this world cannot give you.
How free it is to live with that¬†Security of how much Jesus loves YOU. you can go out and do things and even if you lose, it’s okay because Jesus already won the fight.

At the end of the day you live for the pleasure and journey of one, Jesus.
“Everything around me can be breaking down but my God is immovable!”

Do you have faith that God can throw you so far into things and still be there to catch you?

If you go out in faith and have confidence because your God is the king of heaven and all things, than you wouldn’t worry or¬†fear but have faith in him.

REAL LOVE:

Luke 15:11-32 (MSG)

The Story of the Lost Son

11-12¬†Then he said, ‚ÄúThere was once a man who had two sons. The younger said to his father, ‚ÄėFather, I want right now what‚Äôs coming to me.‚Äô

12-16 “So the father divided the property between them. It wasn’t long before the younger son packed his bags and left for a distant country. There, undisciplined and dissipated, he wasted everything he had. After he had gone through all his money, there was a bad famine all through that country and he began to hurt. He signed on with a citizen there who assigned him to his fields to slop the pigs. He was so hungry he would have eaten the corncobs in the pig slop, but no one would give him any.
17-20¬†‚ÄúThat brought him to his senses. He said, ‚ÄėAll those farmhands¬†working for my father sit down to three meals a day, and here I am starving to death. I‚Äôm going back to my father. I‚Äôll say to him, Father, I‚Äôve sinned against God, I‚Äôve sinned before you; I don‚Äôt deserve to be called your son. Take me on as a hired hand.‚Äô He got right up and went home to his father.
20-21¬†‚ÄúWhen he was still a long way off, his father saw him. His heart pounding, he ran out, embraced him, and kissed him. The son started his speech: ‚ÄėFather, I‚Äôve sinned against God, I‚Äôve sinned before you; I don‚Äôt deserve to be called your son ever again.‚Äô
22-24¬†‚ÄúBut the father wasn‚Äôt listening. He was calling to the servants, ‚ÄėQuick. Bring a clean set of clothes and dress him. Put the family ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Then get a grain-fed heifer and roast it. We‚Äôre going to feast! We‚Äôre going to have a wonderful time! My son is here‚ÄĒgiven up for dead and now alive! Given up for lost and now found!‚Äô And they began to have a wonderful time.
31-32¬†‚ÄúHis father said, ‚ÄėSon, you don‚Äôt understand. You‚Äôre with me all the time, and everything that is mine is yours‚ÄĒbut this is a wonderful time, and we had to celebrate. This brother of yours was dead, and he‚Äôs alive! He was lost, and he‚Äôs found!'”


Better to be a no name servant in the kingdom of God than a famous wealthy person in the world.

REAL LOVE:
A son who went to “Vegas” lost it all and came back to his father and his dad didn’t see any of that, he was just happy his son was back.

1. Real love doesn’t manipulate.

2. Real love Plans: Don’t hope it happens, you PLAN for it to happen.

You think ahead and make a way.
” I know the plans I have for you” –¬† guess what? God’s¬†not done working in you.

3. Real love waits : The Love of God is irrevocable.

Its always there when we want it. Something about the story, the son believed and knew that his dad was waiting for him and that he could go back home at any point in time.
РBelieve that God looks at us like that.   God is waiting, waiting, and waiting.

It’s part of our calling also; to give and wait.
The son came back in his own time, he was at the bottom and came to his own senses. And he knew that his father was waiting for him.

Our job is to do what’s right and sometimes wait.
Real love will get us to wait it out.
Can you be the Christian that never turns the light off? Because Jesus never turned it off on us.

4. Real Love Runs:  His love is relentless

We serve a God who fought for us. When you’re confident in his love for you, you start doing things BECAUSE he loves¬†you not because you’re seeking it.

We can’t loose anyone else to this mistaken word of love.
Being there and loving them at their worst and loving them at their best.
His real love has to get out to this city!

Hillsong NYC Connect group experience

If you haven’t¬†heard of Hillsong¬†nyc¬†church, (Welcome home!), and you live in NYC please look them up, their Sunday services are held on 14st.¬†¬†I really encourage¬†you to go but If you have than¬†I¬†encourage you even more to join a connect group. ‚̧
Join a group where you feel comfortable to speak up, to talk about God, to pray freely, and where you feel you can relate to others.

The connect groups aren’t just bible study they’re a chance to connect, of course, but also to¬†encouraged you in your faith. You can gain new relationships and friendships and¬†I love the one¬†I go to because it feels like a sisterhood, and a place that¬†I can make some really great girl friends. (even though its in another borough, an hour away) :/.

Connect group meeting tonight was awesome. (Our group in Astoria, Queens is all woman, so I met a lot of great woman). And unfortunately my memory eludes me on some of their names.
I’m so thankful that I can truly say that they’re a great set of woman that¬†encourage and motivate me to just be an amazing woman of God. I love the feeling that¬†I get when I’m around them. I feel like¬†I belong there and like Jesus is going to use them to help me brake¬†old habits.¬†While helping me¬†to add good new habits, unfailing faith and so many other things. ¬†I wish you guys could¬†feel¬†how much¬†love¬†I feel when I enter their home,¬†its just amazing.

This was my second time attending a connect group, I met Kendall in a Hillsong¬†service were they gave us “4 minutes of fellowship” and we connected and she told me about the new connect group that she and her roommate were having. I really liked her right away.¬†I had been¬†trying to go to one by¬†where I live¬†for a long time but¬†I didn’t know anyone yet¬†so¬†I didn’t want to go on my own.

But since¬†I met Kendall,¬†I took a chance and went, and I’m grateful¬†I did because¬†I got a chance to meet some wonderful woman of GOD! ūüôā I’m excited to see how God moves within us, and how we will be helping each other become strong leaders in our communities embodying God’s grace, love, and strength.

Acts 17:26-27

 

26 From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. 27 God did this so that they would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from any one of us. РActs 17:26-27

 

Proverbs 20

Read this chapter to learn some lessons and advice that God gives in the bible.
If only you would have known:

20 Wine produces mockers; alcohol leads to brawls.
    Those led astray by drink cannot be wise.
2 The king’s fury is like a lion’s roar;
    to rouse his anger is to risk your life.
3 Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor;
    only fools insist on quarreling.
4 Those too lazy to plow in the right season
    will have no food at the harvest.
5 Though good advice lies deep within the heart,
    a person with understanding will draw it out.
6 Many will say they are loyal friends,
    but who can find one who is truly reliable?
7 The godly walk with integrity;
    blessed are their children who follow them.
8 When a king sits in judgment, he weighs all the evidence,
    distinguishing the bad from the good.
9 Who can say, “I have cleansed my heart;
¬†¬†¬†¬†I am pure and free from sin‚ÄĚ?
10¬†False weights and unequal measures‚ÄĒ
    the Lord detests double standards of every kind.
11 Even children are known by the way they act,
    whether their conduct is pure, and whether it is right.
12¬†Ears to hear and eyes to see‚ÄĒ
    both are gifts from the Lord.
13 If you love sleep, you will end in poverty.
    Keep your eyes open, and there will be plenty to eat!
14¬†The buyer haggles over the price, saying, ‚ÄúIt‚Äôs worthless,‚ÄĚ
    then brags about getting a bargain!
15 Wise words are more valuable
    than much gold and many rubies.
16 Get security from someone who guarantees a stranger’s debt.
    Get a deposit if he does it for foreigners.[b]
17 Stolen bread tastes sweet,
    but it turns to gravel in the mouth.
18 Plans succeed through good counsel;
    don’t go to war without wise advice.
19 A gossip goes around telling secrets,
    so don’t hang around with chatterers.
20 If you insult your father or mother,
    your light will be snuffed out in total darkness.
21 An inheritance obtained too early in life
    is not a blessing in the end.
22¬†Don‚Äôt say, ‚ÄúI will get even for this wrong.‚ÄĚ
    Wait for the Lord to handle the matter.
23 The Lord detests double standards;
    he is not pleased by dishonest scales.
24 The Lord directs our steps,
    so why try to understand everything along the way?
25 Don’t trap yourself by making a rash promise to God
    and only later counting the cost.
26 A wise king scatters the wicked like wheat,
    then runs his threshing wheel over them.
27 The Lord’s light penetrates the human spirit,
    exposing every hidden motive.
28 Unfailing love and faithfulness protect the king;
    his throne is made secure through love.
29 The glory of the young is their strength;
    the gray hair of experience is the splendor of the old.
30 Physical punishment cleanses away evil;
    such discipline purifies the heart.
-Proverbs 20

Romans 5:2-6

2.  Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory.

3.  We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.

4.  And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.

5.  And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

6.  When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners.

-Romans 5:2-6

Proverbs 21

Please take some time to read todays verse.

Do you ever volunteraly do something for others?
An act of kindness is very contagious. But when you commit an act of kindness do you check your heart? Is it in the right place, just kind and offering or is it decieving, boastful, and expecting a reward for your actions? Sometimes we might not notice it but greed and vanity take over, then we’re left with an act of greediness.

1. The king’s heart is like a stream of water directed by the Lord; he guides it wherever he pleases.

2.  People may be right in their own eyes,
    but the Lord examines their heart.

3.  The Lord is more pleased when we do what is right. And just than when we offer him sacrifices.

4 Haughty eyes, a proud heart,
    and evil actions are all sin.

5 Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity,
    but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty.

6 Wealth created by a lying tongue
    is a vanishing mist and a deadly trap.

7 The violence of the wicked sweeps them away,
    because they refuse to do what is just.

8 The guilty walk a crooked path;
    the innocent travel a straight road.

9 It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic
    than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.

10 Evil people desire evil;
    their neighbors get no mercy from them.

11 If you punish a mocker, the simpleminded become wise; if you instruct the wise, they will be all the wiser.

12 The Righteous One knows what is going on in the homes of the wicked; he will bring disaster on them.

13 Those who shut their ears to the cries of the poor
    will be ignored in their own time of need.

14 A secret gift calms anger;
    a bribe under the table pacifies fury.

15 Justice is a joy to the godly,
    but it terrifies evildoers.

16 The person who strays from common sense
    will end up in the company of the dead.

17 Those who love pleasure become poor;
    those who love wine and luxury will never be rich.

18 The wicked are punished in place of the godly,
    and traitors in place of the honest.

19 It’s better to live alone in the desert
    than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

20 The wise have wealth and luxury,
    but fools spend whatever they get.

21 Whoever pursues righteousness and unfailing love
    will find life, righteousness, and honor.

22 The wise conquer the city of the strong
    and level the fortress in which they trust.

23 Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut,
    and you will stay out of trouble.

24 Mockers are proud and haughty;
    they act with boundless arrogance.

25 Despite their desires, the lazy will come to ruin,
    for their hands refuse to work.

26 Some people are always greedy for more,
    but the godly love to give!

27 The sacrifice of an evil person is detestable,
    especially when it is offered with wrong motives.

28 A false witness will be cut off,
    but a credible witness will be allowed to speak.

29 The wicked bluff their way through,
    but the virtuous think before they act.

30 No human wisdom or understanding or plan
    can stand against the Lord.

31 The horse is prepared for the day of battle,
    but the victory belongs to the Lord.

– Proverbs 21 1-31

James 1:2-4

Faith and Endurance

2 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. РJames 1:2-4 (NLT)